Monday, October 12, 2009

Men & The Good Ol' Disappearing Act..

Ah, i have no luck with men ..

u think u connect with a dude and it might go somewhere

then,,, we've all been there

he goes on a disappearing act

I was talking to a guy and he was, ehhhhhhhh he alright looking and he seemed cool and we had a good conversation it constantly flowed for about 4 hours

he had strikes thooough

1)overly "cocky" and he wasn't all that cute...i mean, he kept saying "he's different," blah blah blah he dont think like the average dude like....i hate when guys sayy that instead of telling me that let me see it for myself u knww?

2) he says himself he's "superficial" and he wants a girl who is "really pretty". I think that is fine, but when you say that to a girl, in my opinion, u give her reasons to make her insecure. One of the things he t0old me he wanted in a girl that she had long hair. NOW when i met him, I had my weave in.. but when we chilled, I took it out and rockin my collarbone length hair.. && for soome reason I just felt he looked at me different

So im thinking things are gonna be ok, we'll hang out some more possibly get to know dude. Im not thinking much of it. Then, he doesnt text me. Ok, cool.. then another day goes by w/o texting. I text him and his answers are so dry & bland. A bunch of "oks," && "yeas" so, the final question I ask him is "SO have u been busy" and he answers "Yeah," and thats it. ..
now the reason for me asking this question is to have him explain why he hasnt hit me up.. and maybe, possibly we can hang. but none of that sort. he just said yeah.. bland, dry, to the point he doesnt rap. So, Im like "aight" and I delete his number. Its been 4 days no nothing from him...thus the "Disappearing Act"

I hate when guys do this "Disappearing Act" Everything is cool (so u think) then they decide (in their mind) they do not want you, yall didnt connect whatever and u never hear from him again. I just think its a cowardly men .. and for the guy to claim he was "such a man and mature" iJust think it was a bitch, and little boy move.. if u didnt want to rap, at least make an excuse as why we couldnt be together lie and say you're tooo busy to hang or somethin... whatever... ON TO THE NEXT!!! LOL


RavynRae said...

I hate when guys constantly say how their different too! Why is it that the different ones DON'T have to say it??

&& Don't sweat the "disappearing act" your worth more..

Kelly Nina Kiyyah said...

Uhm.. all I have to say is that ALL Men at some point pull the "disappearing act." smh! I wrote a post back a few months about the games men play and that was def on the list aka "Houdini Act". You're def not alone in experiencing this.

A lil word of advice... nxt time a man starts being distant.. don't hit him up at all. Just fall back and let him come outta hiding on his own ( cuz he will if he's interested).
Just be chill like you didn't even notice he was missing cuz you were so "caught up w/ a million things to do."

That has worked in the past for me, so it might just help you a lil. Don't worry bout him.There's plenty of fish in the sea! NEXT!!!

~Nina of *AF*

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Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear you caught a dime a dozen kind of guy to hang with. What is he too busy doin that he can't pick up his cell and shoot a some texting your way. And i know it has to be another bitch. If they only got one, you can't get rid of them. What would you do if your guy was always busy and your best friend was suddenly always busy? What if they were able to hang out with you at the same times? Who would you pick to hang out with? Like sit at home and no calls then all of a sudden everyone starts calling? Tough choice.